Five Ways Some Ladies are Destroying their Marriage Without Knowing…Take No.2 Serious

Some men and women do not know they are
the ones who bring an end to their marriage or
relationship with the things they do.
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1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church
congregation once advised: “The best thing
you can do as a wife is to live within your
husband’s means.”
Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect
to your husband by carefully following a
budget and making the most of what you
have. Be wise about your finances.
Constantly complaining about not having
enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking
up astronomical amounts of debt for yourself
and your husband is a poor way of saying
“thank you” to a faithful spouse who works
hard every day to provide for the family.
Yes, you may not have enough to buy that
designer shoes or bag you’ve had your eyes on
recently, but your husband will love and
appreciate the fact that you honor him and are
grateful for what he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around the
house, the neighbor across the street, your
dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and
everything in between. As soon as your
husband walks through the door, you launch
into action and dump every negative and angry
thought that’s crossed your mind.
Can you imagine having to carry that burden?
Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things,
and constantly being hounded with complaints
makes it difficult for him to help solve your
pains.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage
is that a good man wants you to be happy,
and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him
unhappy.
3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends, talents,
or career in front of your husband, you send a
clear message to him that he is unimportant.
Imagine having that message sent to you
every day for many years. What would that do
to your self esteem?
Put your husband first! Although it sometimes
seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive,
I think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often
the key to the greatest happiness in marriage.
So many couples get divorced these days,
because of neglect and to a large extent
disrespect.
If you choose to put him first, you will find a
lot of joy.
4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection with
their wives. When you constantly decline
intimacy, it wears on them. S*x should not be
used as a tool to control your spouse; it
should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you
closer to one another and to God.
It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed
by a loving, romantic husband who wants to
share something so beautiful and important
with you — and you only. Even though you
might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it
to give in (unless you are sick) and spend that
time bonding.
5. Not speaking his language
Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that
he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be
honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle
things up until you burst. If he asks you
what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing”
and then expect him to read your mind. Be
open to your man and grow your marriage.